Weaning

Brooks turned one last Friday (happy birthday buddy!!) and I’m working on weaning him from breastfeeding. I remember in the beginning how difficult breastfeeding was. He ate constantly and he would often take 30-45 minutes to nurse. I couldn’t comprehend breastfeeding him for a year at that point. I set a goal of 6 months. I knew in the back of my mind that I hoped to make a year but that seemed light years away. Fast forward to the present and it’s become a part of our routine and a special part of our relationship. Brooks is a busy-body. He won’t sit on my lap for more than a few seconds except for when I feed him. This is our quiet time together. I’ll admit, I’ve used nursing as a way to pacify him when he’s sick, hurt, or really upset. Nursing almost always calms him down. I suppose it calms me down too. It’s a time when I don’t rush around trying to do the next thing. It’s what we’ve done just about every morning and every night for the last year. Habits are hard to break. The truth is that I’m the one having the toughest time. Brooks still wants to nurse but he’s not regularly requesting to.

If you are asking yourself why I’m weaning him if I really don’t want to, it’s for two reasons. The most important part is for family planning. This may be t.m.i. (too much information) but I haven’t had a period since October 2011. I’ve read that a few women will start getting their periods while they are still nursing but the few that I’ve talked to are all like me. The second reason is that I just feel it’s time. I’m proud that we made it a year. I feel that I have done right by him and that weaning him now is also the right thing to do. I don’t suppose that continuing this daily habit will make it any easier to quit in say another 6 months. Also, I always told myself that when he was able to walk up to me and pull down my shirt, it’s time to stop. We’re not there yet but we’re not that far off either.

So over the last week or two, I’ve cut out the day time feeding and tomorrow I’m committing to cutting out the morning feeding. That will leave only the nighttime feeding which I honestly can’t make myself quit until I leave him with my parents this weekend. I’m counting the days with a heavy heart.

I do know that there are and will continue to be more ways to bond with him. He recently starting giving hugs which melts my heart. He’ll also lay his forehead on mine with the sweetest look on his face. My precious baby. Oh, how I adore him.

If you were reading this hoping for more information on how to wean, I’m sorry to disappoint you. I’ve asked a few other mothers and it seems that it wasn’t really an issue. Two mothers told me that their babies lost interest. I can tell you that things I’ve read say to cut a feeding out every 4-7 days. I can give you the facts but that doesn’t mean I can really tell you how to do it. I’m still trying to figure that out.

5 thoughts on “Weaning

  1. Mel,

    I love this blog! This is so well written, and clearly from a mother’s heart. I can remember nursing my children (yes not many did that back then) but Teran stands out because he kinda weaned himself. For me it was my last baby, and I was not quite ready for him to wean, before 12 months. But I followed his lead…the first stage of learning from your child. It worked!! You will learn to comfort Brooks in so many other ways! He is a precious boy! And you…a great mom!!! Enjoy 🙂

  2. Oh I feel your pain! I had to wean Sammy at 4.5 months for several reasons, but mostly because it is next to impossible to get away to pump at work. I still cry over it…it just makes me so sad. And now he has a milk protein intolerance, so there is guilt. But he is a happy baby and you are right, there are so many other ways to bond. 🙂

  3. Mel I am addicted 2 your blog!!! Question, when did the little man start getting better/more efficient aka not taking 30-45 min (Becks loves taking a good hour) to nurse? Really excited for those days:)!

    • Thanks love!! I honestly can’t remember exactly but I think it was gradual. He took forever to nurse in the first month or two and then I think it slowly got better. Hang in there sista! I promise it gets so much easier! Your little man is beautiful.

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